Dear Miss Scarlet, How do you get a goblin to like you? I confess, my efforts to woo my new boyfriend have proven quite difficult. He is nothing like my previous beaus, who have all been Nekoyami, so I wonder if this is a cultural gap? I do everything a good girlfriend should do! I tell him how handsome he is, how smart his is...I even talked him up to his big boss orc. I bring him home-made bento boxes for lunch when I can and leave little love notes for him. I know I work a lot, a gal's gotta earn a living, ya know, and I can't be there all the time. But... I really, really like him! I don't care that it is an unconventional match, or that the other cats gossip and say its inappropriate. He is The One. On a side note, do you have any recommendations on where to buy love potions? Sincerely, Not Kitten Around Dear Not Kitten Around, Your query is quite interesting as in all my time as an advice columnist I have never of such a pairing and believe me, I've had some interesting ones! The realm of inter-species dating is a fraught one as you are no doubt finding out as friends and family express their thoughts on the nature of your relationship. I myself believe that love knows no bounds or limitations and heartily encourage your connection. That being said, the situation does present something of a dilemma. It is readily apparent that your feelings are pure and true but your beau seems reluctant to acknowledge them, though I do not believe he is unaware of them. This bears a striking resemblance to a prior querent and I suggest you might do well to consult prior editions of Infernal Love. On one hand I could offer advice on how to better attract his attention (Shiny, bright colored objects, raw meat) or learn more of his culture (the tenants of Mog would be a good start) or even connect you with a love potion dealer (there is a shop in the Jade Lotus Empire and several reputable alchemists in the Cabbala Amartia). But be wary of a one sided relationship; a true pairing is close to fifty fifty and if he is unwilling or unable to at least try to meet you halfway then no amount of putting yourself out all the time will make him. And if indeed you truly feel he is The One then building a relationship on the foundation of chemical inducement will only last as long as the potion does. As is often the case my prescription for you is communication. Have a conversation with him about your concerns, ask the hard questions and be clear about your feelings. In the end, despite your desires and best efforts, you may find that he is simply not into a relationship and as hard as that could be to take, it's better to ascertain that sooner than later. Dear Miss Scarlet,
Currently I dwell in a place far different than where I grew up and with the coming of the holiday season I have sought to reconnect with friends and family in the land I grew up in. Much time has passed since my last visit and while I feel I am a much better person and in a better place in life, I cannot say the same for the people and place of my youth. Once the fond memories wore off, I found that friends that were once close have drifted apart; I was treated quite badly, with outright suspicion and even hostility when I tried to share the things I have learned, and feel many one time family have turned their backs on me. A place that once brought me joy and happiness now seems to be a toxic cesspool in comparison. I want so badly to have what I did once before, especially around this time of year, but this has left me feeling isolated and depressed. What can I do? -Alone for the Holidays Dear Alone, Your missive is not typical fare for my column as it has little to do with Love, Lust, and dating. Perhaps it's just the time of year but I couldn't help but feel a pang of longing myself as I too live in a place much different from my upbringing. It is indeed very sad to find loved ones turned away and grown distant and to look upon a once fond place with new insight that reveals the cracks and crevices we once blithely ignored. They say that you can never go home again and while I have no idea who 'they' are, I feel they are quite right. Take solace in the fact that you have grown and bettered yourself and made a new life. I truly wish that I could offer some happy explanation or a simple fix, but people will never change unless they truly want to and no amount of seeking their approval will gain you what you have lost. There is a big wide world out there of new experiences and new chosen family to be found and we must all shoulder the burden of looking ahead and enjoying where we are at rather than trying to reclaim the past. Happy holidays and until next time, dear readers, I remain, Miss Scarlet Comments are closed.
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